What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think of a suicidal person?
Have you lost someone to suicide or know someone who has?After losing my sister to suicide just over a year ago, my idea of what a suicidal person is has completely changed. Honestly, before my sister’s death suicide is not something I knew much about. It has completely rocked our world. Never did I think someone I love so dearly would fall victim to suicide, anxiety, depression or whatever you want to call it. It's all the same and creeps into ones thoughts and heart convincing them that they are no good and of no worth and that those around them are better off without them. The reality is that these untruths become the victim’s truth.
Each situation is unique and different, but I truly believe with the right help most suicides are preventable.
My sister was in the center of "The perfect storm" She had major back surgery months before her death taking a toll on her physically and mentally. She had separated from her husband and was still trying to support her family financially. It was a combination of many things. There are so many layers to a situation like this. I find myself wanting to shut down and not talk about it. I want to run and hide under the covers and pretend it didn't happen. There is a stigma that comes with suicide and because of this we find it uncomfortable to talk about, and that's the problem. It's hush hush..... And as awkward and uncomfortable as it is for me to share and talk about I'm pushing myself outside my comfort zone. Without going into great detail, let’s just say I've had some tender mercies that have inspired me and given me the strength to pull the covers back and talk about suicide. We need to break free of our comfort zone, stop the stigma and talk about it.
My Sister teaching my youngest to walk
I have joined forces with other musician's to help prevent suicide learn more at arisewithus and follow us HERE
We at arise gathered together in the studio to record a version of Katy Perry's "Unconditional"
It was an emotional day. It was November 5th, my sisters birthday and a week shy of the year mark of her death. After we finished recording the song I was just leaving when the camera man asked if he could do a quick interview with me. I agreed. My interview ended up being the video. This was completely unexpected and unplanned. For the first time I've been able to watch the entire video all the way through. It's real emotion and a little uncomfortable for me to watch. You can watch the video HERE
(Celebrating my Sisters on her birthday by sending her balloons and notes)
Here are a few statistics found at Jason Foundation
Suicide is the SECOND leading cause of death for ages 10-24. (2010 CDC WISQARS)